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How can I co-parent positively with my ex?

On Behalf of | Jan 27, 2020 | child custody & visitation

In previous times, many believed that the mother was always the best primary custodial parent for children, particularly young ones. However, views have modernized, and the majority of Americans now believe that co-parenting is the most positive approach to take where parenting after divorce is concerned. However, it is important to take a proactive and balanced approach to co-parenting to ensure a positive result. According to Fatherhood.gov, it is paramount that you remember that co-parenting is not about you or your ex-spouse: it is about your kids.

A great tip is to keep the relationship businesslike between yourself and your ex-spouse we’re co-parenting is concerned. It is highly likely that you have some sort of difficult past with your ex-spouse, but you need to be able to put this aside where the children are concerned. Remember, it is about the kids, it is not about you or your ex.

Keeping lines of communication open with your ex-spouse is also vital where this is concerned. Again, you do not need to have lengthy, heart-to-heart conversations in order to make decisions about your children. You may find that communication through a written source like email or texting is beneficial and helps keep a paper trail regarding what was agreed upon and when.

Respect is also important for the ex-spouse, at least when you are in front of your children. It is very possible that your ex-spouse is a poor parent, but if this is true your child will figure that out on his or her own time. Take care to talk about your ex-spouse neutrally. Remember that, no matter what may have happened in the past, your ex-spouse is still your child’s other parent.